Psycho education is a part of my approach in Couples Counselling as I believe that when we understand what may be going on behind the anger and resentment we are less judgmental of the other person. For example, underneath anger you will often find major hurts and feelings of low self-esteem which may have been there since childhood.
It is not about condoning bad behavior, but learning not to judge it, and seeking ways to resolve it amicably and professionally.
Clients can come occasionally for an individual session if the other person is not up to it or if they just want to talk about a personal issue that may be affecting the relationship. Certain techniques are used during the sessions and couples are also given homework to do to help them continue to make progress. Couples then let the therapist know how they have got on with each follow up session.
There are many reason why couples seek therapy. Counselling does not guarantee that the relationship will work but it will help couples to make positive change and give them a better chance of making the relationship a success. They need to be committed to putting in the work and implementing the changes they agreed to make whilst in therapy. They need to be equally committed to making it work. Sometimes it may help to seek individual therapy if there are serious underlying issues affecting the relationship before commencing couples therapy.
The benefits of couples therapy include:
- Improved communication
- A better understanding of emotions and their underlying causes
- Learning to love each other unconditionally
- Restoring romance & intimacy
- Being better able to support one another
- Regain lost trust
- Provides a safe, non-judgmental and confidential space in which to talk and gradually heal
- Learning to respond rather than react to situations
- A greater chance of survival of the relationship.